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Chapter Thirteen: Establish a Strategy&#8221; use_theme_fonts=&#8221;yes&#8221; font_container=&#8221;tag:h1|font_size:30|text_align:left|color:%23020202&#8243;][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_separator width_in_percentages=&#8221;yes&#8221;][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_video link=&#8221;https:\/\/vimeo.com\/100222965?share=copy&#8221;][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_separator width_in_percentages=&#8221;yes&#8221;][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span class=\"ui-provider ed bru brv brw brx bry brz bsa bsb bsc bsd bse bsf bsg bsh bsi bsj bsk bsl bsm bsn bso bsp bsq bsr bss bst bsu bsv bsw bsx bsy bsz bta btb\" dir=\"ltr\"> &#8220;Godfrey was not likely to be very penetrating in his judgments, but he had a sense that his father&#8217;s indulgence had not been kindness, and had had a vague longing for some discipline that would have checked his own errant weakness and helped his better will.&#8221; ~ <i>Silas Marner<\/i><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After inspiring a child with an idea and building an alliance, then, establish a strategy for forming a new habit. Ask the child, \u201cHow can I help you?\u201d Often they themselves will offer a great strategy. The adult\u2019s job is to inform the student\u2019s ignorance and support the student in overcoming their weakness. Discipline is not control; it is formation, cultivation, and helping a child grow up to form healthy relationships. Ambleside teachers prayerfully identify two areas for each child\u2019s growth, and then act with tact, watchfulness, and persistence to form new habits.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In Part 16 of our <a href=\"https:\/\/amblesideschools.org\/the-ambleside-difference\/\">video and discussion guides<\/a>, Bill St. Cyr explains the need to establish a strategy in the formation of good habits. This is accomplished with a growth focus \u2014 the formation of new habits formed out of the right kind of heart, the right kind of intrinsic motivations which must be cultivated relationally. Always casting a vision of what it could be and reinforcing the notion that there\u2019s a different and better way to do things. When we hang in there with the child and remain the troubadour of a virtuous life, day in and day out with tact, watchfulness and persistence, then we find in the child those rails of habit laid down which will lead them to easily and smoothly have the kind of relationships with God, self, others, work, and the whole created universe that we long for our children to have.[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_separator width_in_percentages=&#8221;yes&#8221;][vc_empty_space height=&#8221;30&#8243;][vc_column_text]<strong>Tact, Watchfulness, and Persistence<\/strong>. For example, and to choose a habit of no great consequence except as a matter of consideration for others: the mother wishes her child to acquire the habit of shutting the door after him when he enters or leaves a room. Tact, watchfulness, and persistence are the qualities she must cultivate in herself; and, with these, she will be astonished at the readiness with which the child picks up the new habit.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4>Stages in the Formation of a Habit.<\/h4>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in;\">Johnny,&#8217; she says, in a bright, friendly voice, &#8216;I want you to remember something with all your might: never go into or out of a room in which anybody is sitting without shutting the door.&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;But if I forget, mother?&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;I will try to remind you.&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;But perhaps I shall be in a\u00a0<i>great<\/i>\u00a0hurry.&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;You must always make time to do that.&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;But why, mother?&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;Because it is not polite to the people in the room to make them uncomfortable.&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;But if I am going out again that very minute?&#8217;<br \/>\n&#8216;Still, shut the door, when you come in; you can open it again to go out. 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She looks up, glances at the door, and says, &#8216;I said I should try to remind you.&#8217; &#8216;Oh, I forgot,&#8217; says Johnny, put upon his honour; and he shuts the door that time, and the next, and the next.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>But the little fellow has really not much power to recollect, and the mother will have to adopt various little devices to remind him; but of two things she will be careful\u2013\u2013that he never slips off without shutting the door, and that she never lets the matter be a cause of friction between herself and the child, taking the line of his friendly ally to help him against that bad memory of his. By and by, after, say, twenty shuttings of the door with never an omission, the habit begins to be formed; Johnny shuts the door as a matter of course, and his mother watches him with delight come into a room, shut the door, take something off the table, and go out, again shutting the door.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4><strong>The Dangerous Stage<\/strong>.<\/h4>\n<p>Now that Johnny always shuts the door, his mother&#8217;s joy and triumph begin to be mixed with unreasonable pity. &#8216;Poor child,&#8217; she says to herself, &#8216;it is very good of him to take so much pains about a little thing, just because he is bid!&#8217; She thinks that, all the time, the child is making an effort for her sake; losing sight of the fact that the\u00a0<em>habit<\/em>\u00a0has become easy and natural, that, in fact, Johnny shuts the door without knowing that he does so. Now comes the critical moment. 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